A while ago a man proposed to me and I accepted him after my mother and I prayed istikharah more than once. We had our contract done, but six months later he divorced me for unknown reasons from his side. I mean unconvincing reasons like: he has cold feelings towards me after he was badly in love with me. This made me depressed and made me hate all men who do not care but about themselves. I do really hate men and I do not want to be engaged again. Because the first time everything was just fine, I mean “traditional marriage” and I prayed istikharah before I accepted this marriage.
Note: this man works in a bank, is it possible that Allah is punishing me because I accepted to marry one works in a bank? Despite praying istikharah more than once.
Praise be to Allaah.
We understand your feelings about this matter, which has
caused you hardship and pain, but it may be that it is very good for you,
and you will come to understand that later on, in sha Allaah.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “How wonderful is the situation of the believer, for all his affairs
are good. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that
is good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience,
and that is good for him.” Narrated by Muslim (2999).
The believing woman accepts the decree of Allaah and knows
that Allaah is more merciful towards her than she is herself, and that
calamities increase the believer in reward and status, if he is patient and
If the young man who proposed to you was working in a
riba-based bank, then praise Allaah for having diverted him from you, and
that you did not become his wife, eating from his haraam wealth. This is the
result of istikhaarah, praise be to Allaah, because the result of
istikhaarah may not be immediately apparent, and both parties may go ahead,
then Allaah diverts one or both of them from completing the matter. You may
be completely certain that Allaah has chosen the better of the two for you,
and that what happened of making the marriage contract then divorce, is a
test from Allaah, and it is good and beneficial, even though it may cause
you some sorrow and pain.
Undoubtedly you made a mistake when you accepted this young
man, as the first thing you should look for is religious commitment and good
character. The one who works with riba, either recording it or witnessing it
or anything else, is lacking in good character and is exposing himself to
the curse and being banished from the mercy of Allaah, so how could a
believing woman accept him as a husband and father of her children?
Praise Allaah and give thanks to Him for this blessing, and
learn a lesson from this experience, for if a person is saved one time, he
may not be saved again.
It is very strange for a person whom Allaah diverts away from
evil as a sign of mercy and kindness, to still be upset about his loss.
Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: A person may
think of some trade or position of leadership until it is made available to
him, then Allaah looks at him and says to the angels: Divert it away from
him, for if it is made easy for him he will enter Hell. So Allaah diverts it
away from him, but he keeps saying, So and so beat me to it, So and so
humiliated me, when it is nothing more than a bounty from Allaah, may He be
glorified and exalted.”
With regard to the frustration that has befallen you and your
determination not to go through this again, it is better for you not to have
this attitude. If a person fails once it does not mean that he will fail
every time, rather you can learn from what has happened so that it will
motivate you to make a good choice next time, on the basis of religious
commitment and good character.
We ask Allaah to increase you in faith and piety, and to
bless you with a righteous husband and righteous offspring.
And Allaah knows best
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