I read on a website about the characteristics of the beloved prophet , and this made me cry. I also cry sometimes while praying in the masjid, especially if the imam has a passionate voice. Despite this, I fall in sins like masturbation, and talking loudly to my father. I read on your website about the reasons of such sins and how to stop doing them. My question is: Am I considered hypocrite by committing such sins?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We think that your asking whether you are a hypocrite or not is a sign of
much goodness in you in sha Allaah, because when a Muslim fears that he may
fall into hypocrisy, this indicates that his heart is (spiritually) alive
and that he is keen to protect his faith. Ibraaheem al-Taymi said: Whenever
I examine my words against my deeds, I fear that I am insincere. Al-Hasan
al-Basri said of hypocrisy: No one fears it but a believer, and no one feels
safe from it but a hypocrite.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The more faith and knowledge a person has, the more he will
fear that he may be among this class of people (i.e., hypocrites), hence the
leaders and earliest generations of this ummah were so afraid that they
might be among them. ‘Umar used to say to Hudhayfah: I adjure you by Allaah,
did the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
mention me along with the people (i.e., the hypocrites)? He said: No, but I
would not praise anyone after you, meaning; I would not praise people (by
saying that they are not mentioned among the hypocrites). It does not mean
that ‘Umar was the only one who was free of hypocrisy.
Tareeq al-Hijratayn (p. 604)
The greatest of the awliya’ (close friends of Allaah) feared
this for themselves.
1 – Ibn Abi Mulaykah said: I met thirty of the companions of
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), all of whom
feared being hypocrites, and none of them ever said that he had faith
equivalent to that of Jibreel and Mikaa’eel.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The most prominent among Sahaabah whom Ibn Abi Mulaykah met
were: ‘Aa’ishah, her sister Asma’, Umm Salamah, the four ‘Abd-Allaahs, Abu
Hurayrah, ‘Uqbah ibn al-Haarith and al-Miswar ibn Makhramah. These are among
those from whom he heard hadeeth. He also met other more prominent Sahaabah
than these, such as ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib and Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqaas, and he
confirmed that they were afraid of hypocrisy in their actions and nothing to
the contrary was narrated from any of the Sahaabah, so it is as if there was
consensus on this matter. That is because the believers’ deeds may become
contaminated with elements that undermine ikhlaas (sincerity towards
Allaah). The fact that they feared it does not mean that they fell into it,
rather it means that they were extremely cautious and pious, may Allaah be
pleased with them.
Fath al-Baari by Ibn Hajar
(1/110,111).
2 – al-Haafiz Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on
him) said:
al-Ja’d Abu ‘Uthmaan said: I said to Abu Raja’ al-‘Attaaridi:
Did you meet anyone whom I met of the companions of the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who feared falling into hypocrisy? He
said: Yes. Praise be to Allaah I met some of the prominent ones among them,
and they used to fear it a great deal. And he had met ‘Umar.
3 – and he (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Among those of the Sahaabah who used to seek refuge with
Allaah from falling into hypocrisy were: Hudhayfah, Abu’l-Darda’ and Abu
Ayyoob al-Ansaari. Among the Taabi’een there were many who did that. Ibn
Sireen said: There is nothing I fear more than this verse (interpretation of
the meaning): “And of mankind, there are some (hypocrites) who say: ‘We
believe in Allaah and the Last Day,’ while in fact they believe not”
[al-Baqarah 2:8]. Ayyoob said: Every verse in the Qur’aan which mentions
hypocrisy I fear lest it apply to me. Mu’aawiyah ibn Qurrah said: ‘Umar used
to fear it, so how I can feel safe from it? al-Hasan spoke a great deal
concerning this matter, as did the imams of Islam after them.
According to a report narrated by Ibn Haani’, Imam Ahmad was
asked: What do you say about one who does not fear hypocrisy for himself? He
said: Who can feel safe from hypocrisy?
Fath al-Baari by Ibn Rajab
(1/178, 179).
Pay attention to two important matters:
1 – The hypocrisy that was feared by those imams among the
Sahaabah and those who came after them was hypocrisy in deeds, which leads
to hypocrisy in the heart, which leads one to Hell – we seek refuge with
Allaah – this is the kind of hypocrisy which is mentioned in a number of
ahaadeeth which warn the Muslim against acquiring its characteristics, such
as the following:
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr said: The Messenger
of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are
four characteristics, whoever has them all is a pure hypocrite, and whoever
has one of them has one of the characteristics of hypocrisy, until he gives
it up: when he speaks he lies, when he makes a covenant he betrays it, when
he makes a promise he breaks it, and when he disputes he resorts to obscene
speech.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (34) and Muslim (58).
It was also narrated (2632) by al-Tirmidhi (may Allaah have
mercy on him) who said after it:
What this means according to the scholars is hypocrisy of
action. It was the hypocrisy of disbelieving at the time of the Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Something similar
was narrated from al-Hasan al-Basri when he said: Hypocrisy is of two types:
hypocrisy of action and hypocrisy of disbelief.
End quote.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said:
This goes back to what we mentioned above: that hypocrisy may
be minor or major. Minor hypocrisy is hypocrisy of action, which is what
these people feared for themselves. It leads to major hypocrisy which is
feared for the one who is overcome by minor hypocrisy to such an extent that
it robs him of faith altogether, as Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
“when they turned away (from the path of Allaah), Allaah
turned their hearts away (from the Right Path)”
[al-Saff 61:5]
“And We shall turn their hearts and their eyes away (from
guidance), as they refused to believe therein for the first time”
[al-An’aam 6:110]
Fath al-Baari by Ibn Rajab
(1/179).
Imam al-Nawawi commented on this hadeeth … See his Sharh
Muslim (2/46-48).
2 – These prominent figures were the most righteous of people
in heart, and they were those who most respected the sacred limits and were
least likely to transgress them, but because of their great awareness of
their Lord and their fear of His wrath, they would regard a minor sin – if
they fell into it – as a major sin. Some of them feared showing off, and
others feared falling short in their deeds lest their actions contradict
their words, and others thought that being distracted by permissible
interactions in their homes with their wives and families even though they
focused properly in gatherings of dhikr was a kind of hypocrisy.
It was narrated that Hanzalah al-Usaydi said: Abu Bakr met me
and said: How are you, O Hanzalah? I said: Hanzalah has become a hypocrite.
He said: Subhaan Allaah! What are you saying? I said: When we are with the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) he
reminds us of the Fire and the Garden until it is as if we are seeing them
with our own eyes, but when we depart from the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), we attend to our wives and
children and businesses, and we forget a great deal. Abu Bakr said: By
Allaah, we experience something similar. Abu Bakr and I went and entered
upon the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him), and I said: Hanzalah has become a hypocrite, O Messenger of Allaah.
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “Why is that?” I said: O Messenger of Allaah, when we are with you,
you remind us of the Fire and the Garden until it is as if we are seeing
them with our own eyes, but when we depart from you, we attend to our wives
and children and businesses, and we forget a great deal. The Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “By the One in
Whose hand is my soul, if you continued as you are when you are with me, and
continued to remember (Paradise and Hell), the angels would shake hands with
you in your homes and on the streets. But, O Hanzalah, there is a time for
this and a time for that” (he said it) three times.
Narrated by Muslim (2750).
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
With regard to the words “we attend to our wives and children
and businesses”,
Al-Harawi and others said: What this means is that we get
absorbed with that and get busy with it.
“businesses” refers how a man earns a living.
“Hanzalah has become a hypocrite” means: he was afraid that
he had become a hypocrite, because he felt the fear of Allaah when he was
sitting with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him),
and that was manifested in the way he focused on remembrance of Allaah and
thinking of the Hereafter, but when he departed he became distracted by his
wife and children and earning a living in this world, and the basic meaning
of hypocrisy is showing the opposite of what one conceals of evil, so he was
afraid that he was a hypocrite because of that. But the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told him that this was not hypocrisy,
and that they were not expected to be like that all the time. “There is a
time for this and a time for that.”
Sharh Muslim (17/66, 67)
Al-Haafiz Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said:
When it became clear to the Sahaabah (may Allaah be pleased
with them) that hypocrisy meant a difference between one’s inner thoughts
and outward appearance, some of them feared that if they lost the focus and
presence of mind they attained when they listened to reminders, after they
returned to worldly matters and were distracted by their families and
children and wealth, that this was hypocrisy, as was narrated in Saheeh
Muslim from Hanzalah al-Asadi … and he quoted the hadeeth –
Fath al-Baari by Ibn Rajab
(1/111).
With regard to your situation, you have to fear more than
those pure awliya’ (close friends of Allaah) among the Sahaabah, Taabi’een
and subsequent generations did, because you are disobeying Allaah by doing
the secret habit and by mistreating your parents. Your saying that you
sometimes raise your voice somewhat to your father will not excuse you from
the warning of punishment. You are forbidden to say even “uff” (a mild word
of objection) to your parents, so how about if you raise your voice and
speak loudly to them? What you must do is beware lest your sins lead you to
a bad end.
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) gave a chapter
heading to the report he narrated from Ibraaheem al-Taymi, Ibn Abi Mulaykah
and al-Hasan al-Basri – which we have quoted above – saying: Chapter on the
believer’s fear that his deeds may be cancelled out without him realizing.
And he ended this chapter by saying:
And there is fear for the one who persists in hypocrisy and
sin without repenting, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know” [Aal
‘Imraan 3:135].
End quote.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said:
What the words of al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him)
– And there is fear for the one who persists in hypocrisy and sin without
repenting, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “and do
not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know” [Aal ‘Imraan
3:135] – mean is that if one persists
in sin and the various types of hypocrisy without repenting there is the
fear that the one who does that may be punished by having his faith taken
away altogether, so that he becomes a complete hypocrite and meets a bad end
– we seek refuge with Allaah from that – as it is said that sin is the way
to kufr.
Fath al-Baari by Ibn Rajab
(1/181).
Secondly:
We encourage you to continue softening your heart and weeping
when you hear Qur’aan, and listening to exhortations, and at the same time
we encourage you to repent from sinful actions and to refrain from doing the
secret habit, and to refrain from mistreating your parents. We encourage you
to hasten to apologize to them and to honour them and treat them kindly in
word and deed. Beware of continuing to sin without repenting, and remember
that the one who truly fears Allaah is not the one who weeps and sheds
tears, rather he is the one who gives up something for which he fears he may
be punished.
What we have quoted to you of warnings about that is
sufficient, in sha Allaah, to make you hasten to repent and turn to Allaah.
And Allaah knows best
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