Thursday, 28 April 2011

If he asks her to say “I accept So and so as a husband before Allaah”, does she become his wife

My problem is that I got to know someone on the Net and we loved one another, but after that he asked me to marry him so that our conversing would not be haraam, and the way to do that was that I would say: “I, So and so, accept So and so as a husband before Allaah.” After that he asked me to take off my hijab in front of him but I refused because I was not convinced about this marriage with regard to its conditions. He said: There was acceptance and the mahr (dowry). I said: I don’t want it and there were no witnesses. He said: There were witnesses; but I did not see them myself. He insisted that it is a valid marriage but I am not convinced of that. I hope to find out from you whether I am regarded as his wife or not. I do not want to fall into haraam by speaking to him.

Praise be to Allaah.

This is not a marriage, rather it is a deviation and calling
it a marriage is lying and deceit. What you must do is cut off ties with
this man who is toying with the rulings of Allaah, and regarding as
permissible that which Allaah has forbidden. His claim that this is a
marriage means that he regards it as permissible to do with you what a man
does with his wife. Wouldn’t any adulterer on the face of the earth be able
to do such a marriage with the immoral adulteress who is his partner in sin,
so that she would be his wife and they would not be committing adultery?!  

We are afraid that he may gradually make you take off your
hijab in front of him or do something even worse, and take a picture of you
and try to threaten you with this picture. It is easy nowadays to combine
pictures with one another and threaten you using these pictures if you do
not do what he wants. Many such cases have happened. See the answer to
question no. 91868 and learn a lesson from it. 

How many heedless women have been gradually tricked in such
ways by treacherous “wolves” until they lost their honour and chastity, then
these men leave them, forgetting about the so-called marriage, and there is
no maintenance and no rights, not even a divorce! 

In a valid marriage it is essential that the woman’s guardian
be present, along with two witnesses of good character from among the
Muslims. Any marriage that is conducted without a guardian is invalid, and a
woman who gives herself in marriage without her guardian is a zaaniyah
(adulteress), as Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The
one who gives herself in marriage is a zaaniyah.” Narrated by al-Daaraqutni.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “There is no marriage except with a guardian and two witnesses.”
Narrated by al-Bayhaqi, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Jaami’ no. 7557. 

And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Any woman who gives herself in marriage without the permission of her
guardian, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is
invalid.” Narrated by Ahmad (24417), Abu Dawood (2083) and al-Tirmidhi
(1102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2709). 

Its seems to us from your question that you fear Allaah, may
He be exalted, and you do not want to fall into haraam and be exposed to the
wrath of the Almighty. Hence we advise you strongly to forget about this man
and to cut off all ties with him, via the internet or otherwise, for every
word, smile and moment of desire will be recorded against you, and tomorrow
you will be questioned about it before your Lord. So hasten to repent so
that these sins will be erased. We ask Allaah to forgive you and to divert
you away from this evildoer, and to protect the daughters of the Muslims.

From learning Quran online Blog

And important note that we want to discuss and share with you it is about Quran reading and doing Quran recitation online to understand it, Ramadan is the month when the beautiful the Holy Quran has been revealed.  A miracle by the creator of the worlds, Allah (SWT)  Should we not glorify him by reading quran the gift he has sent down for us and learn Arabic Quran by heart  to feel the power of it and we as Muslim should try to learn quran with translation to understand it  wile we do Quran memorization and let our heart fill will tears of glory and wash away our sins in the month of Ramadan many people teach quran  and we should participate in teaching quran as much as we could because it is the noble cause to spread the word of Allah and the quran tutor will get the reword in the day of judgment “Will they not meditate on the Quran, or are there locks on the hearts”, Quran for kids , Surah Muhammad, Verse 24. Here is an interesting tajweed quran reciter where you can listen to quran from top Koran reciters and read the Koran with different translation and plz link to it and share it to promote islam

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