Thursday, 28 April 2011

How can he rid himself of jealousy towards his brothers

to be a true beliver 1 quility is to love for your brother what u love for yourself. Al humdurilla this is easy to do with my blood brother, but very difficult to do this for any of my muslim brothers except a few , the reason being is that when i see my muslim brother better then me in anything i feel jealous, i thing it's pride(brother i make duaa to allah to forgive me for felling like this but when i see my muslim brother again,this feeling comes back again)


 I want to fell happy seeing my muslim brother prosper and i want to fell sad when he's sad.but whenever i see people praising my muslim brother i fell jealous.


 i also fell like wanting for my muslim brother janatul ferdose but whenever my muslim brother tells me something which will benefit me for deen, i want to practice it but saythan comes and tell me that if i practice it then my muslim brother would get the same rewards as i would and so his stage will be higher then minein jannah, my nafs sometimes fall for this trap. i would like to knowhow i can get total cure from this problem. 

Praise be to
Allaah.

What every Muslim is obliged to do, as you mentioned,
is to love for his brother what he loves for himself of good things,
and to hate for his brother what he hates for himself of bad things.
This does not mean that he cannot like for himself what he likes for
others. If he sees that his brother has something that he does not,
and he wishes that he had it too, this is ghibtah (envy that
is free from malice); if he wishes that the blessing would be taken
away from them, this is called hasad (destructive jealousy). 

The Muslim needs to strive against his own self (jihaad
al-nafs) so that his heart will be free of jealousy towards his
Muslim brothers. If he sincerely loves his brothers, most of these problems
from which he is suffering will disappear. When the Muslim realizes
how great his virtue and status will be when he loves his brothers and
loves good things for them, and when he knows how great his reward will
be if he treats them well, this will motivate him to treat them well
in all ways, and to strive to benefit his brothers instead of being
preoccupied with jealous thoughts of what they have and he doesn’t. 

Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh. 

You have to think long and hard about the words of Allaah
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“That is the Grace of Allaah which He bestows
on whom He wills

[al-Maa’idah
5:54] 

“It is We Who portion out between them their livelihood
in this world, and We raised some of them above others in ranks, so
that some may employ others in their work

[al-Zukhruf 43:32] 

Hasad (destructive jealousy) causes a great deal
of harm in this world and in the Hereafter. Al-Tirmidhi narrated from
al-Zubayr ibn al-‘Awaam that the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“There has come to
you the disease of the nations before you, jealousy and hatred. This
is the ‘shaver’ (destroyer); I do not say that it shaves hair, but that
it shaves  (destroys) faith. By the One in Whose Hand is my soul,
you will not enter Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe
until you love one another. Shall I not tell you of that which will
strengthen love between you? Spread (the greeting of) salaam amongst
yourselves.” (A hasan hadeeth. Jaami’ al-Tirmidhi, 2434). 

Concerning the meaning of the phrase “it shaves (destroys)
faith”, al-Tayyibi said: “i.e., hatred takes away faith like a razor
takes away hair.” (Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi bi Sharh Jaami’ al-Tirmidhi). 

It seems, my brother, that you know the ruling and are
aware of the consequences, and that you want to rid yourself of this
blameworthy characteristic. Here are some solutions for you. 

1-                
Make
du’aa’ (supplication) to Allaah and ask Him to rid you of this problem.
The Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say in his du’aa’,
“Wa’hdi qalbi wa’slul sakheemata sadri (guide my heart and remove
ill will from my breast).” The phrase “guide my heart” means to the
straight path, and “remove ill will from my breast” means take away
all insincerity, rancour and hatred.

2-                
Pondering
the meanings of the Qur’aan and reading it frequently, especially the
verses which speak of hasad (destructive jealousy), because reading
the Qur’aan brings one a great deal of hasanaat (reward for good
deeds). Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds

[Hood 11:114]

3-                
Reading
the seerah (biography) of the Messenger

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), seeing how he kept away
from hasad and how he loved good for others, even for his enemies. Among
the useful books on seerah is Noor al-Yaqeen fi Seerat Sayyid al-Mursaleen.

[Translator’s note: a well-known book of seerah which is available
in English is “Al-Raheeq al-Makhtoom (the Sealed Nectar) – Biography
of the Noble Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), by Safi-ur-Rahmaan al-Mubarakpuri]

4-                
Reading
the biographies and stories of the Sahaabah in books such as Suwar
min Hayaat al-Sahaabah by ‘Abd al-Rahmaan Ra’fat al-Basha)

5-                
If any
such thoughts (of hasad, etc.) cross your mind, then seek refuge
with Allaah from the accursed Shaytaan, and keep yourself busy with
something that will make you forget these insinuating whispers and thoughts.

6-                
If the
Shaytaan manages to instil hasad in your heart, then beware lest
you say or do anything which will show that hasad. Every person
has his or her share of hasad. Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:
“Nobody is free from hasad, but the noble person hides it whilst
the base person shows it.” (Amraad al-Quloob). A person will
not be brought to account for whatever crosses his mind, but he will
be brought to account for what he says and does. The Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah will forgive
my ummah for their mistakes, what they forget and what they are
forced to do.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari,  2033).

7-                
If you
feel that you are jealous of a specific person, then buy him a gift
and shake hands with him. The Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Shake hands, for
this will dispel rancour, and exchange gifts and love one another, for
this will dispel hatred.” (Narrated by Maalik in al-Muwatta’,
1413). Hasad is the result of hatred, whose opposite is love,
the way of which is giving gifts and spreading (the greeting of) salaam,
because the Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You will not enter
Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love
one another. Shall I not tell you of that which will strengthen love
between you? Spread (the greeting of) salaam amongst yourselves.” (Narrated
by Muslim, 81). 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said in his book Amraad
al-Quloob (diseases of the heart): 

“Whoever find in himself any hasad towards another
has to try to neutralize it by means of taqwa (piety, consciousness
of Allaah) and sabr (patience). So he should hate that (the feeling
of hasad) in himself… But the one who does wrong to his brother
by word or deed will be punished for that. The one who fears Allaah
and is patient, however, is not included among the wrongdoers, and Allaah
will benefit him by his taqwa.”

And Allaah knows best

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