The questioner got married to a woman after explaining to her his father's situation, as his father is sick and needs someone to take care of him. She agreed to that, but now he wants to marry a second wife, but the first wife said: If you take a second wife, then it is my right to ask for separate accommodation and to share the care of your father between us (wives). What is your opinion on that? The questioner is saying: How can she request this when it was stipulated from the beginning that she should take care of his father; in fact he only married her for this purpose and no other?.
Praise be to Allaah.
enjoined fulfilment of covenants and promises. He says (interpretation of
the meaning): “O you who believe! Fulfil (your) obligations” [al-Maa’idah
5:1]. The most important covenant that is to be fulfilled is the
marriage contract, whether by the husband or by the wife. It was narrated
that ‘Uqbah ibn ‘Aamir (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger
of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The condition
which most deserves to be fulfilled is that by means of which intimacy
becomes permissible for you.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2572) and Muslim
that, what is required from the wife is to fulfil the condition that her
husband stipulated, which is to serve and take care of his father. It seems
to us that the wife has no right to ask him to divide this work between her
and her co-wife, because that was not stipulated in the marriage contract;
furthermore, she knows that Allah has permitted him to marry another woman,
and she did not stipulate that he should not take another wife.
As for her
request for separate accommodation, she has the right to that unless it was
stipulated before marriage that she should take care of his father in his
house and that she would not have accommodation separate from his father. In
that case, she is obliged to adhere to the two conditions regarding
accommodation and taking care of the father, and she does not have the right
to ask for separate accommodation or for the work to be divided between her
and her co-wife, unless the husband doest hat on his own initiative.
If the wife
cannot put up with her new situation, then she has the right to ask for
khula’ (a type of divorce), in which she will give up her mahr to her
husband and he will divorce her (talaaq).
details on khula’, see the answer to question number
the husband to be wise in his conduct and to fear Allah with regard to his
first wife; she has accepted him as a husband and has agreed to serve his
sick father. It is not right to respond to that by bringing in a co-wife who
will not share the work with her and will have advantages over her which
will cause him distress in his life and cause him trouble.
We are not
trying to forbid that which Allah has permitted of plural marriage; but we
are aware that part of good attitude on the man’s part is responding in kind
to the one who has been kind to him in word and in deed. We do not think
that the husband’s insisting on not making his second wife share the work of
caring for his father is a good way of responding to his first wife’s good
conduct. He should stipulate for the second wife what he stipulated for the
first; that is what is fair and wise.
that this wife should adhere to the conditions of marriage that were
stipulated for her, but she has the right to ask for khula’ if she fears
that she will not be able to fulfil the conditions or fulfil her duties
towards her husband. But we think that the husband should do the right thing
to get out of this situation, which is stipulating for the second wife what
he stipulated for the first of caring for his father. If the marriage
contract has been done without that, then he has to deal with her kindly and ask her to serve his father and look after him, working with his first wife.
And Allah knows best.