Thursday 28 April 2011

When is it permissible for a woman to uncover her face?

 

When is it permissible for a woman to uncover her face?
We know that the most correct opinion among the scholars is that women should cover their faces, but there are many situations where women cannot cover their faces. Could you shed more light on this topic?

Praise be to Allaah.

The most correct opinion, which is supported by evidence, is that it is obligatory to cover the face, therefore young women are forbidden to uncover their faces in front of non-mahram men in order to avoid any mischief, and they should certainly do so when there is fear of fitnah (temptation).

On this basis, the fuqaha’ stated that in certain situations, women are permitted to uncover their faces in front of non-mahram men when it is necessary to do so, and it is permitted for those men to look at them, provided that this do not go beyond the bounds of what is necessary, because what is permitted on the grounds of necessity should not be exaggerated.

These special situations may be summed up as follows:

I – Proposal of marriage

It is permitted for a woman to uncover her face and hands in front of a man who wants to propose to her, so that he may see them, without being alone with her and without touching her, because the face gives an indication of ugliness or beauty, and the hands give an indication of whether the body is slender or plump (which in turn gives an impression about fertility).

Abu’l-Faraj al-Maqdisi said: “The scholars do not differ as to the permissibility of looking at the face… the focal point of beauty, the place one looks at…”

Many ahaadeeth indicate that it is permissible for a man to look at the woman to whom he is proposing marriage. Among them are the following:

Sahl ibn Sa’d (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “A woman came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, I came to give myself to you in marriage.’ So the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) looked at her, he raised his gaze and stared at her, then he lowered his head. When the woman saw that he had not made any decision, she sat down. Then a man from among his Companions stood up and said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, if you don’t want to marry her, then marry her to me.’ …” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 7/19; Muslim, 4/143; al-Nisaa’i bi Sharh al-Suyooti, 6/113; al-Bayhaqi, 7/84).

Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “I was with the Prophet , and a man came to him and told him that he had married a woman of the Ansaar. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘Have you looked at her?’ He said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Go and look at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansaar.’” (Reported by Ahmad, 2/286, 299; Muslim, 4/142; al-Nisaa’i, 2/73).

Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When any one of you proposes marriage to a woman, if he can look at that which will encourage him to go ahead and marry her, let him do so.” (Reported by Abu Dawood and al-Haakim. Its isnaad is hasan, and there is corroborating evidence in the hadeeth of Muhammad ibn Muslimah. It was classed as saheeh by Ibn Hibbaan and al-Haakim. It was also reported by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah, and by Ahmad and al-Bazzaar from the hadeeth of Abu Humayd. Fath al-Baari, 9/181).

Al-Zayla’i said: “It is not permissible for him to touch her face or hands – even if he feels that no desire will be aroused by doing so – because it is haraam and there is no need to do so.” In Durar al-Bihaar it says: “It is not permissible for the qaadi, the witnesses or the groom to touch her, even if they feel that no desire will be aroused by doing so, because there is no need for that.” (Radd al-Muhtaar ‘ala’l-Durr al-Mukhtaar, 5/237).

Ibn Qudaamah said: “It is not permitted for him to be alone with her because she is still forbidden for him, and only a look is permitted, therefore being alone with her remains haraam, because there is no guarantee that he will not do something haraam if he is alone with her. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man is alone with a [non-mahram] woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present with them.” He should not look at her in a lustful or suspicious manner. Ahmad said, according to a report narrated by Saalih: “He should look at the face, and he should not look in a lustful manner.”

The man may look at her repeatedly, checking her features, because the desired aim cannot be achieved in any other way.”

II – Business dealings

It is permitted for a woman to uncover her face and hands when buying or selling, and it is permitted for the vendor to see her face when he hands over the goods and asks for the money, provided that this will not lead to fitnah – otherwise it is forbidden.

Ibn Qudaamah said: “If a person deals with a woman when selling or renting, he may look at her face so he knows who she is, and may go back to her when the money is due (a guarantee of the price when the deal is finalized). It was reported that Ahmad said this was makrooh in the case of a young woman, but not in the case of an old woman, and in the case where there is fear of fitnah, or where there is no need for this business deal. But in cases where it is necessary, and there is no wrongful desire, then there is no harm in it.” (al-Mughni, 7/459; al-Sharh al-Kabeer ‘ala Matan al-Muqni’, 7/348 bi Haamish al-Mughni; al-Hidaayah ma’a Takmilat Fath al-Qadeer, 10/24).

Al-Dasooqi said: “ When testimony is given concerning a woman who wears niqaab (face-veil), she has to remove her niqaab. This applies in the case of marriage and other matters, such as selling, giving gifts, debts, power of attorney, and so on. This is the opinion favoured by our shaykh.” (Haashiyat al-Dasooqi ‘ala’l-Sharh al-Kabeer, 4/194).

III – Medical treatment

A woman is permitted to uncover the site of her illness whether it is on her face or elsewhere on her body, for a male doctor to treat her, on the condition that her husband or mahram is present, and if she cannot find a female doctor. It is less serious for her to be seen by a doctor of the same sex, and she should not be seen by a non-Muslim doctor if a Muslim doctor is available. Also, she should not uncover more than the site of the problem.

It is not permissible for the doctor to look at or touch more than is necessary, because the issue is one of necessity and should not be exaggerated.

Ibn Qudaamah said: “it is permissible for the doctor to look at whatever is necessary of her body, of her private parts and elsewhere, because there is a need for it to be uncovered.

It was reported that a boy who had stolen something was brought to ‘Uthmaan. He said, ‘Look at his groin (to see if he had pubic hair, which would indicate whether he had reached the age of puberty [and would therefore be considered to be a responsible adult] or not).’ They did not find any pubic hair, so they did not cut off his hand.” (Al-Mughni, 7/459; Ghidha’ al-Albaab, 1/97).

Ibn ‘Aabideen said: “He said in al-Jawharah: if the illness is in any part of her body apart from her private part, it is permitted (for the doctor) to look at it in order to treat it, because it is the matter of necessity. If the sickness is in her private part, he (the doctor) should teach a woman how to treat it. If there is nobody who can do that, and they fear that she may die or suffer unbearably, then they should cover all of her body except the site of the sickness, then a man may treat her, but he should avoid looking at her as much as he can, and look only at the site of the sickness that he is treating.” (Radd al-Muhtaar, 5/237. See also, al-Hidaayah al-‘Alaa’iyah, p. 245).

A similar ruling applies to one who is taking care of a sick person, even if it is someone of the opposite sex, when helping the patient with wudoo’ or istinja’ (washing the private parts after using the toilet). (See Ghidha’ al-Albaab, 1/97).

Muhammad Fu’aad said: “What indicates that it is permissible for a man to treat a woman – within the restrictions mentioned above – is the report narrated by Imaam al-Bukhaari with his isnaad from al-Rabee’ bint Mu’awwadh, who said: “We used to go out on military campaigns with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). We would bring water to the people and serve them, and bring the dead and wounded back to Madeenah.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6/80, 10/136. Fath al-Baari. A similar report was narrated from Anas by Muslim, 5/196; Abu Dawood, 7/205 ma’a ‘Awn al-Ma’bood; and al-Tirmidhi, 5/301-302, who said this is hasan saheeh)

Al-Bukhaari included this hadeeth under the chapter heading Baab hal yudaawi’l-rajul ul-mar’ah wa’l-mar’at ul-rajul? (Chapter: can a man treat a woman or a woman a man?). (Fath al-Baari, 10/136).

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said: “The ruling that a man may treat a woman was derived from this by analogy; he (al-Bukhaari) did not confirm that, because it is possible that this referred to the time before hijaab was made obligatory, or that women used to take care of their husbands or mahrams on military campaigns. The ruling is that it is permissible for women to treat non-mahram men in cases of necessity, with as little looking and touching as possible.” (Fath al-Baari, 10/136)

IV – Testimony

It is permissible for a woman to uncover her face when she is giving testimony in court, whether she is a witness in a case or is there to witness a deal, and it is permissible for the qaadi (judge) to look at her in order to know who she is and to protect the rights of all concerned.

Shaykh al-Dardeer said: “It is not permitted to give testimony against a woman in niqaab until she uncovers her face so that it may be known who she is and what she looks like.” (Al-Sharh al-Kabeer li’l- Shaykh al-Dardeer, 4/194)

Ibn Qudaamah said: “The witness may look at the face of the woman against whom he is testifying so that his testimony will speak about her in specific terms. Ahmad said: ‘He cannot testify against a woman unless he knows who she is.’” (Al-Mughni, 7/459; al-Sharh al-Kabeer ‘ala Matan al-Muqni’, 7/348, bi haamish al-Mughni; al-Hidaayah ma’a Takmilat Fath al-Qadeer, 10/26).

V – In court cases

It is permissible for a woman to uncover her face in front of a qaadi (judge) who is to rule either in her favour or against her, and in this situation he may look at her face in order to know who she is and for the sake of protecting people’s rights.

The same rules that apply to giving testimony or bearing witness also apply in court cases, because they serve the same purpose. (See Al-Durar al-Mukhtaar, 5/237; Al-Hadiyah al-‘Alaa’iyah, p. 244; Al-Hadiyah ma’a Takmilat Fath al-Qadeer, 10/26).

VI – In front of mature boys who feel no physical desire

It is permissible – according to one of the two reports – for a woman to show in front of a mature boy who feels no physical desire what she shows in front of her mahrams, because he has no interest in women, and it is permissible for him to see all that.

Shaykh Abu’l-Faraj al-Maqdisi said: “The mature boy who feels no physical desire may see parts of a woman’s body above the navel and below the knee, according to one of the two reports, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meanings): ‘… there is no sin on you or on them to move about, - attending (helping) you each other…’ [al-Noor 24:58] and ‘And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age)…’ [al-Noor 24:59]. This indicates that there is a differentiation between those who have reached puberty and those who have not.”

Abu ‘Abd-Allaah said: “Abu Tayyibah did cupping for the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he was a boy.”

It was also reported that he said: “He is like the ajnabi (stranger, i.e., non-mahram), because he is like one who has reached puberty in the matter of physical desires, and this means that hijaab is required and it is forbidden to look. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘… small children who have no sense of the shame of sex…’ [al-Noor 24:31]. As for small boys who are not mature, it is not necessary to cover in front of them at all.” (Al-Sharh al-Kabeer ‘ala Matan al-Muqni’, 7/349. See also Al-Mughni, 7/458 and Ghada’ al-Albaab, 1/97).

VII – The man who has no desire

It is permissible for a woman to show in front of a man who has no desire what she can show in front of her mahrams, because he has no interest in women, and he is allowed to see all of that. Ibn Qudaamah said: “Whoever no longer feels any desire, because of old age, impotence or incurable illness, or because he is a eunuch, … or a mukhannath (the effeminate man or a man who has female hormones) who feels no desire, the ruling that applies to such a man is the same as the ruling that applies to mahrams regarding looking at women, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘… or old male servants who lack vigour…’ [al-Noor 24:31], i.e., those who feel no desire for women.” Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “This is the one of whom women do not feel shy.” He also said: “This is the mukhannath who is impotent (i.e., cannot have an erection).”

It was reported that Mujaahid and Qutaadah said: “This is the one who has no interest in women, but if he is a mukhannath who feels desire and knows about women, then the rules that apply to others apply also to him, because ‘Aa’ishah said: ‘A mukhannath entered upon the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and they used to think that he was a man who felt no physical desires, but the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) entered upon us when this man was describing a woman and saying ‘When she comes in, she comes on four, and when she goes out, she goes on eight.’ The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Do I not see that this man knows who is here? This one should never enter upon you.’ And he was kept away after that.” (Reported by Abu Dawood and others).

Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said: “The mukhannath is not only the one who is known to be promiscuous. The mukhannath is the one who looks so much like a woman physically that he resembles women in his softness, speech, appearance, accent and thinking. If he is like this, he would have no desire for women and he would not notice anything about them. This is one of those who have no interest in women who were permitted to enter upon women. Do you not see that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not prevent that mukhannath from entering upon his wives at first, but when he heard him describing the daughter of Ghaylaan and realized that he knew about women, he commanded that he should be kept away.” (Al-Mughni, 7/463; al-Sharh al-Kabeer ‘ala Matan al-Muqni’, 7/347-348).

IX – Old women who are past marriageable age

Old women who are past marriageable age may uncover their faces and what usually appears in front of non-mahram men, but it is still better for them to remain covered.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And as for women past child-bearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment. But to refrain (i.e., not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them…” [al-Noor 24:60]. Ibn Qudaamah said: “In the case of old women who are past marriageable age, there is nothing wrong if they show what ordinarily appears, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning), ‘And as for women past child-bearing who do not expect wedlock…’ [al-Noor 24:60].” Ibn ‘Abbaas said concerning the aayahs (interpretation of the meanings), “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze…” [al-Noor 24:30] and “Tell the believing women to lower their gaze…” [al-Noor 24:31]: “Old women who no longer expect to get married were exempted from this. The same exemption also applied to women who are deformed and are not desirable.” (Al-Mughni, 7/463; al-Sharh al-Kabeer ‘ala Matan al-Muqni’, 7/347-348).

X – Uncovering the face in front of kaafir women

The scholars have differed concerning how a Muslim woman should appear in front of kaafir women.

Ibn Qudaamah said: “The ruling concerning women dealing with women is the same as that concerning men dealing with men. There is no difference between Muslims, and no difference between a Muslim woman and a dhimmi (non-Muslim living under Muslim rule) woman, just as there is no difference between two Muslim men or between a Muslim man and a dhimmi man when it comes to seeing. Ahmad said: ‘Some people think that she should not take off her head covering in front of a Jewish or Christian woman. However, I think that she (a Jewish or Christian woman) should not see the private part (of a Muslim woman), or attend her when she gives birth (i.e., she should not be her midwife, because she will look at the most private part of her body when she gives birth – except in cases of necessity, as discussed above).’”

Another opinion was reported from Ahmad, according to which a Muslim woman should not remove her niqaab in front of a dhimmi woman, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… or their women …” [al-Noor 24:31]. But the first opinion is more correct, because kaafir women, Jewish and others, used to enter upon the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and they did not wear hijaab in front of them nor were they commanded to do so. ‘Aa’ishah said that a Jewish woman used to come and talk to her, saying “May Allaah save you from the punishment of the grave,” and she [‘Aa’ishah] asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)… Asma’ said, “My mother came to me, and she had no desire to become Muslim. I asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), ‘Should I uphold the ties of kinship with her?’ and he said, ‘Yes.’”

Moreover, hijaab between men and women serves a purpose that is not an issue in the case of a Muslim woman and a dhimmi woman, just as it is not an issue in the case of a Muslim man and a dhimmi man. Hijaab is obligatory when there is a text stating that it is so or the obligation may be understood by analogy; in the case of a Muslim woman and a non-Muslim woman, there is neither text nor analogy.

The aayah “… or their women …” [al-Noor 24:31] could refer to all women. (Al-Mughni, 7/464; al-Sharh al-Kabeer ‘ala Matan al-Muqni’, 7/351 bi haamish al-Mughni).

Ibn al-‘Arabi al-Maaliki said: “The correct view, in my opinion, is that this permissible in the case of all women, and that it appears with the pronoun ( -hinna = their) to match the rest of the aayah. This is the aayah of pronouns, where the pronoun -hinna appears twenty-five times; there is nothing else like it in the Qur’aan. So this word matches the others.” (Ahkaam al-Qur’aan, 3/326).

Al-Aloosi said: “Al-Fakhr al-Raazi suggested that the dhimmi woman is like the Muslim woman, and he said: “The correct opinion is that she (the dhimmi woman) is like the Muslim woman, and ‘their women’ means all women. The opinion of the salaf (early generations of Islam) should be understood on the basis that (covering in front of non-Muslim women) is preferable, but it is not obligatory.” Then he said: “This view is easier for people today, for Muslim woman can hardly observe hijaab in front of dhimmi women.” (Tafseer al-Aloosi, 19/143).

Muhammad Fu’aad said: “If this opinion was easier in their time, then no doubt it is more appropriate and easier in our own time, especially for those women who, because of circumstances beyond their control, find that they have to live in non-Muslim countries, where they mix with non-Muslim women and their lives are interwoven with theirs, to the extent that observing hijaab in front of them is fraught with difficulties. Truly, to Allaah we belong, and truly, to Him we shall return.”

XI – Hajj and ‘Umrah

Women must uncover their faces and hands when they enter ihraam for Hajj or ‘Umrah. At this time, they are forbidden to wear niqaab and gloves, because the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The woman who is in ihraam must not wear niqaab or gloves.”

If a woman needs to cover her face because men are passing close by her, or she is beautiful and is sure that men are looking at her, she should drop a part of head covering over her face, because of the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah in which she said, “Riders were passing by us, and we were in ihraam with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), so when they came near, each of us would lower her jilbaab over her face, and when they went away we would uncover our faces again.”

Al-Juzayri said, reporting from them: “A woman may cover her face for a necessary reason, such as non-mahram men passing close by her, and the fact that (the cloth) will touch her face does not matter. This is to make it easy and alleviate hardship.” (Al-Fiqh ‘ala’l-Madhaahib al-Arba’ah, 1/645).

These are situations in which it is acceptable for a woman to uncover her face and hands, explained in detail by the fuqaha’ and scholars. But there is one other situation which deserves our attention, and that is when a Muslim woman is forced to uncover her face – what is the ruling in this case?

XII – Compulsion

Some oppressive regimes have instituted harsh laws which go against the religion of Islam and rebel against Allaah and His Messenger. These laws prevent Muslim women from wearing proper hijaab, and some of them even remove their niqaab by force and subject them to the worst type of oppression and persecution.

Women who wear niqaab have been subjected to harassment in certain European countries, where they have been subjected to harm, and Islam and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) have been slandered.

Therefore, when a woman is certain that she is likely to be subjected to unbearable harassment, she is permitted to uncover her face. It is better to follow a scholarly opinion which is less correct than to expose herself to trouble at the hands of evil men.

If a woman is permitted to uncover her face and hands in the situations described above, which do not involve force or harassment, then surely it is more likely that she is permitted to uncover them when she is faced with a threat to herself and her religion, especially when her niqaab may expose her to tormentors who may pull the hijaab from her head or subject her to worse abuse. In cases of necessity, things that are ordinarily forbidden are permitted, within the limits of what is strictly necessary, as the scholars have stated, but this should not lead one to take the matter of covering the face lightly. Each woman must evaluate the situation in which she is living and learn from her own experience and that of others, so that she will be sure of what is a case of real necessity, as opposed to her own whims and weaknesses.

Although women are permitted to uncover their faces and hands in the exceptional situations described above, they are not permitted to wear make-up and visible jewellery if they do so. It is forbidden for them to display these things in front of non-mahram men, according to all the fuqaha’, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… and not to show off their adornment…” [al-Noor 24:31], and because there is no need to do so. (Hijaab al-Muslimah bayna Intihaal wa Ta’weel al-Jaahileen, p. 239).

We ask Allaah to reform the Muslims. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

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A woman asked him to take a picture of her and he did that

An uncovered woman asked a young man to take a picture of her with a camera, and she was not Muslim, and he agreed to do that. Is what he did permissible or did he do something that was very wrong, and what advice do you give to people like him?.

Praise be to Allaah.

The Muslim has to respect the rulings of Islam and be proud
of its teachings, and he should be a caller to the guidance of Islam by his
attitude more than his words, especially when he is among non-Muslim
people. 

Righteousness is a honour by means of which the Muslim rises
in status, a light that shines among mankind. It is not a burden or
something shameful that he should be embarrassed to show openly, let alone
go against openly. 

It is well known in Islam that it is forbidden to look at the
faces of non-mahram women unnecessarily, and it is even more haraam to look
at their hair and whatever of their adornments are visible. 

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking
at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual
acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All‑Aware of what they do”

[al-Noor 24:30] 

It was narrated from Ibn Buraydah from his father that the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to
‘Ali: “O ‘Ali, do not follow one glance with another; the first is allowed
but the second is not.” 

Narrated by Abu Dawood (2149) and classed as hasan by
al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood. 

It is obvious that taking a woman’s picture with a camera
involves looking closely at her face and form, along with the talking,
chatting and haraam smiles that are also involved. So how about if the woman
is uncovered, wearing makeup and showing her adornments? 

The basic principle is that the Muslim should denounce evil
and forbid everything that goes against the commands of Allaah, and he
should not keep quiet about it – let alone help with it and take the matter
lightly.  

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said:  “Whoever among you sees an evil action, then let him change it with
his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking
out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart – and that is the weakest of
faith.” Narrated by Muslim (49). 

It would have been better for this young man to take the
opportunity to call this woman to Islam and tell her of the virtues and
purity to be found in hijab, and tell her that righteous believing women
from Maryam (peace be upon her) to the Mothers of the Believers and the
believing women were women of virtue who observed hijab, and that Islam
protects women and regards them as precious jewels which are not permissible
for everyone to see. Perhaps Allaah might have guided this woman at his
hands and her becoming Muslim would have weighed in the balance of his good
deeds on the Day of Resurrection. 

This young man has to repent from what he has done, and not
do such a thing again. You have to advise him and remind him that he should
keep away from such actions, and that it is better to openly follow the
rulings of Islam in front of non-Muslims who he hopes will be impressed when
they see the greatness of this religion and its teachings. 

I ask Allaah to guide us and you to that which is good, and
to teach us and you guidance, truth and faith

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She accepted him as a husband after praying istikhaarah but he divorced her

A while ago a man proposed to me and I accepted him after my mother and I prayed istikharah more than once. We had our contract done, but six months later he divorced me for unknown reasons from his side. I mean unconvincing reasons like: he has cold feelings towards me after he was badly in love with me. This made me depressed and made me hate all men who do not care but about themselves. I do really hate men and I do not want to be engaged again. Because the first time everything was just fine, I mean “traditional marriage” and I prayed istikharah before I accepted this marriage.

Note: this man works in a bank, is it possible that Allah is punishing me because I accepted to marry one works in a bank? Despite praying istikharah more than once.

Praise be to Allaah.

We understand your feelings about this matter, which has
caused you hardship and pain, but it may be that it is very good for you,
and you will come to understand that later on, in sha Allaah. 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “How wonderful is the situation of the believer, for all his affairs
are good. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks for it and that
is good for him; if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience,
and that is good for him.” Narrated by Muslim (2999). 

The believing woman accepts the decree of Allaah and knows
that Allaah is more merciful towards her than she is herself, and that
calamities increase the believer in reward and status, if he is patient and
seeks reward. 

Secondly: 

If the young man who proposed to you was working in a
riba-based bank, then praise Allaah for having diverted him from you, and
that you did not become his wife, eating from his haraam wealth. This is the
result of istikhaarah, praise be to Allaah, because the result of
istikhaarah may not be immediately apparent, and both parties may go ahead,
then Allaah diverts one or both of them from completing the matter. You may
be completely certain that Allaah has chosen the better of the two for you,
and that what happened of making the marriage contract then divorce, is a
test from Allaah, and it is good and beneficial, even though it may cause
you some sorrow and pain. 

Undoubtedly you made a mistake when you accepted this young
man, as the first thing you should look for is religious commitment and good
character. The one who works with riba, either recording it or witnessing it
or anything else, is lacking in good character and is exposing himself to
the curse and being banished from the mercy of Allaah, so how could a
believing woman accept him as a husband and father of her children? 

Praise Allaah and give thanks to Him for this blessing, and
learn a lesson from this experience, for if a person is saved one time, he
may not be saved again. 

It is very strange for a person whom Allaah diverts away from
evil as a sign of mercy and kindness, to still be upset about his loss. 

Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: A person may
think of some trade or position of leadership until it is made available to
him, then Allaah looks at him and says to the angels: Divert it away from
him, for if it is made easy for him he will enter Hell. So Allaah diverts it
away from him, but he keeps saying, So and so beat me to it, So and so
humiliated me, when it is nothing more than a bounty from Allaah, may He be
glorified and exalted.” 

Thirdly: 

With regard to the frustration that has befallen you and your
determination not to go through this again, it is better for you not to have
this attitude. If a person fails once it does not mean that he will fail
every time, rather you can learn from what has happened so that it will
motivate you to make a good choice next time, on the basis of religious
commitment and good character. 

We ask Allaah to increase you in faith and piety, and to
bless you with a righteous husband and righteous offspring. 

And Allaah knows best

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He has the problem of the secret habit and is suffering because of doing ghusl; can he pray with wudoo’ when he is junub

 

I am a young man who had a religious upbringing, and I have memorized the Holy Qur’aan. I became addicted to touching my private parts and playing with them, and I did not know that what I was doing was the secret habit until a few years later, and I did not know that it causes janaabah and major impurity. 


I am severely addicted to this habit and I even do it three times a day. 


When I found out that it causes janaabah, and that it requires ghusl, at first I started to do ghusl, but it was no use. Hardly half the day passes before I do it, and I started to regard wudoo’ as sufficient for praying and reading Qur’aan, because it is difficult to do ghusl every time. I started to doubt whether my prayer is valid and to think that it is invalid. Then I started to be careless about it and I was not keen to do it until I did ghusl, then I was afraid that I might be a kaafir, so I decided to do wudoo’ and pray so that I would not become accustomed to not praying. 


I have tried to give it up many times, but I failed every time. The shortest time I was able to go without masturbating was only three days, then I went back to it. 


Should I continue as I am and attend prayer in congregation having done only the usual wudoo’, or should I stop that and join the prayers together when I do ghusl? Can I recite Qur’aan during that time?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

Before answering your
questions, we should pause to note a few things. We are very happy that you
have written to us. You have told us about what you are suffering from of
the shaytaan gaining power over you, and we are saddened to learn that your
situation is so bad, but we hope that our Lord will help you and guide you
to the best of attitudes and deeds. We think that the fact that you have
memorized Qur’aan, and that you love obedience and worship, especially
prayer, will be a means to your being protected and guided, in sha Allaah. 

Secondly:

 You should realize that
what you are doing – the secret habit – is something that has been done by
many, but Allaah has enabled them to repent from it. The reasons why they
stopped it are many. Some of them gave it up out of fear of Allaah, and out
of shyness before Him and His noble angels, because they believed that
Allaah can see them, so they gave it up out of shyness before Him. They knew
that the angels can see them, so they gave it up out of shyness before them,
and they knew that Allaah has forbidden it, and they feared His punishment.
Some of them gave it up when they thought about its many harmful effects on
the soul and the body; they knew that it would affect their marital lives,
so they gave it up lest its consequences affect them. Some of them gave it
up because it was contrary to sound human nature and reason that Allaah has
bestowed on them.

 We think that you will
give it up for all the reasons mentioned above. Allaah has given you
strength and youth, and health and well being, and righteousness and
guidance. These are blessings for which you cannot give enough thanks even
if you live as long as Nooh (peace be upon him), praying and obeying your
Lord. Is this the way to show gratitude for these blessings? The fact that
you have memorized the Book of Allaah and you know the ruling on the one who
does not pray should motivate you to think carefully about how this habit
has led you to neglect the greatest of the practical pillars of Islam,
namely prayer. By giving it up you will be joining the mushrikeen and
apostates who have left the religion of Allaah! We think positively of you
and we think that you will give up this habit out of shyness before Allaah
and His angels, and out of fear of His punishment, and because of the bad
effects it has on the soul and body, and because Islam says that it is
haraam. 

This is what we think of
you, and we hope that you will not let us down. We hope, after all this,
that you will think about just two things: 

1 – What if one of the
great Shaykhs or scholars whom you trust and respect were to see you? What
if they saw you when you were engaging in this bad habit? Would you ever
enjoy life after that and would you be able to face them after that? 

Remember that Allaah can
see you and is watching you, and that His noble angels can see you. 

2 – We hope that you will
think about the possibility that you may die whilst engaging in this habit!
Would you like your life to end in that way? Would you like to be raised
from your grave in that state? Would you like to die in a state of janaabah
due to a haraam action? 

We hope that you will think
about these two things, and will write and tell us that you have pledged not
to do that and that you are taking measures to strengthen your heart with
faith and certain belief, keeping away from all things that may lead to
doing this habit, such as looking at haraam things, being alone with a
member of the opposite sex, reading provocative stories, and other things.
We are waiting for a letter from you telling us that you have repented to
Allaah and that you are maintaining your tahaarah (purity) and praying
regularly. We hope that you will not let us down and that we will hear from
you soon.  

Thirdly: 

Remember that emission of
maniy with desire means that ghusl is obligatory, and it is not permissible
for you to do wudoo’ only for prayer after you have become junub. There is
no difference of scholarly opinion concerning this. We would never tell you
to do wudoo’ and pray because it is better than not praying at all, because
this would be a deceitful fatwa and it would be deceiving you. Rather we say
to you with certainty that prayer offered without doing ghusl in the event
of janaabah is invalid, and doing that knowingly is a kind of mocking
sharee’ah.  

Praying without having
purified oneself is a major sin for which a person deserves to be punished
in the grave. Listen to this hadeeth which was narrated by al-Tahhaawi in
Mushkil al-Athaar from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased
with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
who said: “It was commanded that one of the slaves of Allaah be given one
hundred lashes in his grave, but he kept asking Allaah and calling upon Him
until it was made one. And his grave was filled with fire. When it ceased,
he woke up and said: Why did you flog me? They said: You offered a prayer
without having purified yourself, and you passed by one who was being
wronged and you did not help him.” 

Classed as hasan by
al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb (2234). 

This is the punishment for
a person who offered a single prayer without having purified himself. Are
you able to bear that? 

Beware of responding to the
tricks of the shaytaan who is calling you to give up prayer. Your own nafs
may make that appear attractive to you too, seeking to escape from this
punishment. 

But this is not the way to
flee from this punishment. The likeness of that is the likeness of one who
flees from one thing to something that is even worse than it. 

Giving up prayer is kufr
that puts one beyond the pale of Islam, and the kaafir will abide in Hell
forever and ever. Understand this and be certain of it; perhaps it will make
you understand the state to which this bad habit has brought you, and
perhaps you will hasten to set things straight and sort out the mess that
your life has become because of this action. 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn
Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

Purification from janaabah
is obligatory, and no one has the right to pray in a state of either
janaabah or minor impurity until he has purified himself. If a person prays
without having purified himself in the manner prescribed in sharee’ah,
thinking that it is permissible to do that, he is a kaafir. If he does not
regard that as permissible, then there is a difference of scholarly opinion
as to whether he is a kaafir, but he deserves a severe punishment. 

Majmoo’ al-Fataawa
(21/295). 

Fleeing from punishment is
achieved by fleeing to Allaah, may He be exalted:
“So flee to Allaah (from His Torment to His Mercy __ Islamic Monotheism).
Verily, I (Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم)
am a plain warner to you from Him” [al-Dhaariyaat 51:50]. 

You flee from everything
that you fear, except Allaah. So if you fear Him, flee to Him. Fleeing to
Him means fleeing from that which Allaah hates to that which He loves,
fleeing from disobedience to obedience, from kufr to faith, from innovation
to Sunnah, from heedlessness to remembrance. 

We ask Allaah to purify
your heart and keep you chaste, and to help you to do that which He loves
and which pleases Him. 

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Love and correspondence before marriage

I am a young man and fell in love with our neighbour’s daughter. That went on for two years without her knowing and without me telling her or anyone among my family, and without me meeting her. I was hoping that she would become my wife. Then I had a car accident that left me with extensive injuries and I became almost disabled. I was very worried because the dream that I had of marrying that girl seemed to be slipping away, then suddenly m my sister asked me to tell her frankly what was worrying me, and I told her what was on my mind. My sister said to me: I am going to tell her of your love for her and after that she can choose. The surprise was that she also loved me, and we began to exchange messages of love via my sister (messages that were, by Allaah, noble and chaste). After two years I proposed marriage to her and she agreed, praise be to Allaah. After one year we got married and we lived happily, and during that period I only saw her from afar, because they are our neighbours and we would meet by accident. I never spoke to her except on the wedding night. I have heard that because of our love for one another we have committed a sin. Is this correct? What is the expiation for that sin?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

We ask Allaah to reward you
for the calamity that befell you, and to increase the love between you and
your wife.

Secondly: 

A person cannot be blamed
for love that he does not cause, such as if he sees a girl by accident and
his heart is filled with love for her, but he does not do anything haraam
such as looking repeatedly or shaking hands or being alone with her, or
exchanging emotional words with her. As for the love that stems from
repeated looking, haraam mixing or correspondence, the one who does that is
sinning to the extent that he does haraam things in his relationship and
love. 

Thirdly: 

Correspondence between the
sexes is not permissible, because that provokes temptation and usually
results in evil. If a man corresponds with a non-mahram woman in letters
that are not seen by anyone else, that leads to many evils. Islam forbids a
woman to be alone with a man who is not her mahram because of the fitnah
(temptation) and bad things that result from that, such as attachment and
the desire to look and touch, etc. All of this results from the man talking
to the woman in these private letters or conversations, especially if they
are young and at an age when desire is strong. 

Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may
Allaah preserve him) was asked: What is the ruling on correspondence between
young men and young women, if this correspondence is free from immorality,
love and desire? 

He replied: It is not
permissible for any person to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram,
because of the temptation involved in that. The person may think that there
is no temptation, but the shaytaan will keep trying until he tempts him
through her, and tempts her through him. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) told the one who hears of the Dajjaal to
keep away from him, and he said that a man may come to him as a believer but
the Dajjaal will keep trying until he tempts him and confuses him. 

There is a great deal of
temptation and danger in correspondence between young men and women which
means that it has to be avoided, even though the questioner says that there
was no love or desire involved. End quote from Fataawa al-Mar’ah,
compiled by Muhammad al-Musnid, p. 96. 

The woman is forbidden to
speak softly to one who is not permissible for her, as Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning): 

“be not soft in speech,
lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for
adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner”

[al-Ahzaab 33:32] 

And it is haraam for a man
to enjoy listening to the speech or voice of a non-mahram woman. 

Making your sister the
go-between in passing on the letters is another evil, because that is
encouraging her to engage in this kind of activity. 

Based on this, what you have to do is repent to Allaah, and do a lot of righteous deeds, but you do not have to do anything else. 

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If he asks her to say “I accept So and so as a husband before Allaah”, does she become his wife

My problem is that I got to know someone on the Net and we loved one another, but after that he asked me to marry him so that our conversing would not be haraam, and the way to do that was that I would say: “I, So and so, accept So and so as a husband before Allaah.” After that he asked me to take off my hijab in front of him but I refused because I was not convinced about this marriage with regard to its conditions. He said: There was acceptance and the mahr (dowry). I said: I don’t want it and there were no witnesses. He said: There were witnesses; but I did not see them myself. He insisted that it is a valid marriage but I am not convinced of that. I hope to find out from you whether I am regarded as his wife or not. I do not want to fall into haraam by speaking to him.

Praise be to Allaah.

This is not a marriage, rather it is a deviation and calling
it a marriage is lying and deceit. What you must do is cut off ties with
this man who is toying with the rulings of Allaah, and regarding as
permissible that which Allaah has forbidden. His claim that this is a
marriage means that he regards it as permissible to do with you what a man
does with his wife. Wouldn’t any adulterer on the face of the earth be able
to do such a marriage with the immoral adulteress who is his partner in sin,
so that she would be his wife and they would not be committing adultery?!  

We are afraid that he may gradually make you take off your
hijab in front of him or do something even worse, and take a picture of you
and try to threaten you with this picture. It is easy nowadays to combine
pictures with one another and threaten you using these pictures if you do
not do what he wants. Many such cases have happened. See the answer to
question no. 91868 and learn a lesson from it. 

How many heedless women have been gradually tricked in such
ways by treacherous “wolves” until they lost their honour and chastity, then
these men leave them, forgetting about the so-called marriage, and there is
no maintenance and no rights, not even a divorce! 

In a valid marriage it is essential that the woman’s guardian
be present, along with two witnesses of good character from among the
Muslims. Any marriage that is conducted without a guardian is invalid, and a
woman who gives herself in marriage without her guardian is a zaaniyah
(adulteress), as Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The
one who gives herself in marriage is a zaaniyah.” Narrated by al-Daaraqutni.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “There is no marriage except with a guardian and two witnesses.”
Narrated by al-Bayhaqi, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Jaami’ no. 7557. 

And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Any woman who gives herself in marriage without the permission of her
guardian, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is
invalid.” Narrated by Ahmad (24417), Abu Dawood (2083) and al-Tirmidhi
(1102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2709). 

Its seems to us from your question that you fear Allaah, may
He be exalted, and you do not want to fall into haraam and be exposed to the
wrath of the Almighty. Hence we advise you strongly to forget about this man
and to cut off all ties with him, via the internet or otherwise, for every
word, smile and moment of desire will be recorded against you, and tomorrow
you will be questioned about it before your Lord. So hasten to repent so
that these sins will be erased. We ask Allaah to forgive you and to divert
you away from this evildoer, and to protect the daughters of the Muslims.

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How to control urges through fasting

My question is about fasting. But it is not concerning The Holy month Ramadan. I mean fasting when one wants to marry but has not the ability to do this at the moment. I know that in Islam it is prescribed for this purpose, but I do not what is the right ruling on this. I would like to learn the exact time for iftar and sahur, how many days in month one should fast, exactly which day of the week it supposed to be as well.Please provide me with as much as you can details about that. And Allah knows best. May the peace and blessings of Him be upon all you.

Praise be to Allaah.
 

 

This pure monotheistic religion came to teach people how to
control urges so that the Muslim individual who is distinguished by his
character and behaviour would not remain a prisoner to his desires like an
animal. Islam prescribes rulings, both obligatory and mustahabb, to protect
him against the bad effects of being driven by his desires. Among these
rulings is the prescription of fasting for those who cannot find the natural
outlet for these desires in marriage, as ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah
be pleased with him) narrated, “We were young men with the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and we did not have anything
(i.e., we could not afford to get married). The Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to us, ‘O young men,
whoever among you can afford to get married, then let him do so, for it is
more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding chastity. And whoever is
not able to do that, then let him fast, for that will be a shield for him.’”
(al-Bukhaari, 5066; Muslim, 1400). Fasting reduces the effects that desires
have on young people.

 Although this ruling is addressed to young men, it may become more essential when there is more temptation and the means and motives for committing evil increase, especially for those who live in societies in which there is a great deal of wanton display and promiscuity. So they should be keen to do this act of worship in order to protect their chastity and religious commitment. As well as fasting, a person may seek help though praying to Allaah to protect his religious commitment and honour, and to make it easy for him to get married, as marriage protects one's chastity. He may also help himself by remembering the reward in Paradise that Allaah has prepared for those who steadfastly obey His commands and guard their chastity, namely al-hoor al-‘iyn.

 

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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She falls into sin time after time, and she thinks that her fiancé is the cause of that

I want to repent from some sins, but I cannot. Every time I intend to repent and regret what I have done, I go back to it again. My fiancé is the cause of these sins. Every time he promises me that he will help me to repent, but to no avail. I do not know what to do. Please note that I wear Islamic hijab. Should I cancel my engagement or what should I do? Please note that my wedding will be in a few months time, and I love him very much and he loves me.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

We ask Allaah to guide you and your fiancé, and to bless you
by enabling you to repent sincerely and do righteous deeds, and to join you
together in a righteous family that honours the rights of Allaah, obeying
His laws and practising His religion. 

Secondly:  

From what we can see from your question, we think that you
love goodness and hate evil. Among the signs of that is the fact that you
wear shar’i hijab, and you feel bad about returning to sin after repenting
from it.  

The matter has nothing to do with another person whom we
blame for not helping us to obey Allaah or helping us to refrain from sin,
rather it all has to do with the individual and his self that is inclined
towards evil and his response to the temptations of the shaytaan. We want
you to set yourself straight and that will be a cause of your husband being
set straight and even your children. 

What you are suggesting of cancelling the engagement is not
the solution, because you are in love with him and he is in love with you. 

If you cancel the engagement, will your situation before
Allaah be any better? If the answer is yes, then why isn’t that the case
now? You are not married yet, so you can combine sincere repentance and
marrying the one you love if you truly return to your religious commitment. 

Thirdly: 

You should note that it is obligatory to repent from sin
immediately according to scholarly consensus. Allaah says (interpretation of
the meaning): 

“O you who believe! Turn to Allaah with sincere
repentance! It may be that your Lord will expiate from you your sins, and
admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise)”

[al-Tahreem 66:8] 

True repentance has to do with past, present and future. As
for the past, it is regret for what you have done. As for the present, it is
giving up the sin immediately. As for the future, it is resolving never to
return to it. 

Al-Shanqeeti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:  

True repentance is sincere repentance, which includes its
three essential parts in the correct manner: giving up the sin if he was
still committing it; regretting what he has done that went against the
commands of his Lord; and intending never to go back to disobeying Allaah.
End quote. 

Adwa’ al-Bayaan (6/206) 

Fourthly: 

If a person repents sincerely, then he wakens and the
shaytaan causes him to slip and sin again, that does not cancel out his
previous repentance, but he has to repent again from the new sin, and so on;
every time he sins again, he must repent again. 

Al-Shanqeeti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

It seems from the words of the scholars that if a person
repents sincerely, and Allaah expiates his sins by means of this sincere
repentance, then he returns to that sin again, his first repentance that was
done in the required manner is not invalidated by the return to sin, rather
he must repent anew for his new sin, unlike those who say that his return to
sin cancels out his first repentance. End quote. 

Adwa’ al-Bayaan (6/206) 

He should not forego repenting and praying for forgiveness
every time he falls into sin, rather the shaytaan would like to gain victory
over the sinner in this manner, until his sins accumulate and he despairs of
the mercy of Allaah by failing to repent and seek forgiveness. 

Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

It was said to al-Hasan al-Basri: Shouldn’t one of us feel
too shy before his Lord to ask for forgiveness of his sins then do them
again, then ask for forgiveness then do them again? He said: The shaytaan
would love to gain victory over you in this manner. Do not ever get bored of
asking for forgiveness. 

Jaami’ al-‘Uloom al- Hikam
(1/165). 

Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali narrated that ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez
(may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

O people, whoever has committed sin, let him ask Allaah for
forgiveness and repent. If he does it again, let him ask Allaah for
forgiveness and repent, and if he does it again, let him ask Allaah for
forgiveness and repent. Sins are like a yoke on the neck of a man, and doom
lies in persisting. 

Then Ibn Rajab said: What this means is that a person will
inevitably commit whatever sins have been decreed for him, as the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The son of Adam’s
share of zina has been decreed for him and he will inevitably do it.” But
Allaah has given each person a way out from whatever sins he commits, and
erases it by means of repentance and prayers for forgiveness. If he does
that he will rid himself of the evil of sin, but if he persists in sin he
will be doomed. End quote. 

Jaami’ al-‘Uloom al-Hikam
(1/165).   

Fifthly: 

Our advice to you and your fiancé is to be in the state that
Allaah loves, so you should advise him of what we have told you, which is
that repentance is essential and it must be sincere. You should both realize
that life is short and no one knows when he will meet his Lord, so he should
be keen to do acts of worship and obedience and to avoid evil deeds, before
the time of regret comes to him, when he cannot delay his death for a moment
and he cannot return to this world once he has died and his time has ended. 

You have to cooperate in doing good and resolve to give up
sin. Spend your time in remembering Allaah (dhikr) and always recite the
dhikrs for morning and evening, and perform naafil prayers and say du’aa’.
Beware of having any sins, music, mixing or other evils in your wedding, for
these are things that anger the Lord. 

We ask Allaah to bless you and to join you together in good,
and we ask Him to help you to do that which pleases Him. 

Sixthly: 

If your sin is that which happens between a man and his
fiancée of overstepping the mark, then our advice to you is to hasten to get
married, so that you will be his wife, and then it will be permissible for
you to do that which a man does with his wife, and a woman with her
husband. 

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He is attracted to beardless youths; how can he rid himself of this sickness?

I have the problem of being attracted to beardless youths and I have no desire for women. The reason for this may be a bad experience that I had in childhood. I try to be patient as much as I can. I lower my gaze and I know that this is haraam, and I do not regard it as permissible. I ask Allaah for forgiveness and I pray “O Allaah, purify my heart and keep me chaste.” I do not think that marriage is a solution for me, because I have no desire for women. I fast on Mondays and Thursdays. But this is still in my heart. What should I do? Is there anything that will compensate me in Paradise? I ask Allaah to forgive me if there is any transgression in my question.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

Remember that this is one of the most serious of problems,
and that it may lead a person to doom. It may affect his mind and make him
go insane, or it may affect his physical health and make him ill, or it may
affect his religious commitment and cause him to be doomed, and lead him to
a bad end. So beware of continuing with this and strive hard, seeking the
help of your Lord, to rid yourself of this evil inclination, and look at
those who have been affected by this so that you may learn a lesson from
them. 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

It is narrated that a man fell in love with someone and
became totally infatuated with him, and that love became deeply rooted in
his heart until he fell ill, and took to his bed because of it, and that
person tried to keep away from him and felt great resentment towards him.
Intermediaries kept going between them until he promised to visit him. The
sick man was told of that and he rejoiced greatly and his anxiety was
dispelled, and he began to look forward to the appointment that had been
set. Whilst he was like that, the intermediary came and said: He came part
way with me then he went back, but I encouraged him and spoke to him, and he
said: He remembered me, and rejoiced about me, but I will not enter because
I will not expose myself to accusations. I tried to change his mind but he
insisted, and left. When the sick man heard that, he was filled with despair
and became worse than he had been before, and appeared to be in the throes
of death, and he started saying: 

Your pleasure is dearer to my heart than the mercy of the
Almighty, the Creator 

I said: O So and so, fear Allaah. He said: This is how I
feel.  

I got up and left, and I had barely passed through the door
when I heard the cry of death. 

Allaah forbid that we should meet with a bad end. 

End quote. 

Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi (p.
117) 

What do you think? Would a wise Muslim want to die as that
sick lover died, who gave precedence to the pleasure of his beloved over the
pleasure of His Creator Who created him and formed him and granted him
provision and guided him to Islam, and bestowed upon him blessings both
apparent and invisible? If you say that you would not want that – which is
what we think you would say – then you should know that you are travelling
the same path as him and that there may befall you what befell him, if you
do not check yourself. 

Remember that this is the path that was first travelled by
the people of Loot, namely the love of beardless youths, then Allaah
punished them in a way that no nation has been punished before or since.
Allaah turned their houses upside down and caused the earth to swallow them
up, and He pelted them with stones and took away their sight. 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, explaining
different types of love: 

A kind of love that is incurs the wrath of Allaah and leads
to one being remote from His mercy and is the most harmful to a person’s
spiritual and worldly interests, is love of beardless youths. No one is
afflicted with this but one who become worthless in the sight of Allaah and
has been expelled from His door and whose heart is far away from Him. It is
one of the worst obstacles that keep a person away from Allaah, as one of
the salaf said: If a person becomes worthless in the sight of Allaah, He
afflicts him with the love of beardless youths. This is the love that
brought the punishment upon the people of Loot, and the only reason for this
punishment was this type of love. Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning): “Verily, by your life (O Muhammad
صلىالله عليه وسلم), in their wild intoxication, they were wandering
blindly” [al-Hijr 15:72]. End quote. 

Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi (p. 173,
174) 

Secondly: 

Remember that there are causes for this calamity, and these
causes are things that the afflicted person has brought upon himself. The
one who wants to be saved from his predicament must look at these causes and
rid himself of them, otherwise he will be content with his situation and
unwilling to change it for something that is better. These causes may
include the following: 

1 – Weakness of faith and lack of love for Allaah in one’s
heart, and a lack of fear of His punishment. 

2 – Looking freely at beardless youths, and enjoying their
beauty and appearance. 

This is the first route that the affected person takes to
sin. His Lord has commanded him to lower his gaze and avoid looking at
haraam things, and his Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) has enjoined him likewise. If he ignores the command and does that
which is forbidden, then Iblees has shot his poisoned arrow into his heart,
and finished him off. 

Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

Looking is the origin of most of
the problems that befall man, because looking generates thoughts, then
thoughts generate ideas, and ideas generate desires, and desires generate
will, which then becomes stronger and becomes firm resolve, in which case
the deed will inevitably be done unless there is something to prevent it.
Hence it was said that patience in lowering the gaze is easier than patience
in bearing the pain that comes afterwards. 

Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi,
p. 106 

Hence the scholars forbade looking at beardless youths, and
some of them regarded it as more haraam than looking at women. 

Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

Similarly the scholars forbade a man to look at the face of a
beardless youth if he is handsome, whether with or without desire, and
whether it is free of fitnah (temptation) or there is the fear thereof. This
is the correct view which was favoured by the scholars. This was stated by
al-Shaafa’i and the prominent scholars of his madhhab (may Allaah have mercy
on them). The evidence for this is that a beardless youth is, in some ways,
like a woman; he may be desired as a woman is desired, and his form may be
beautiful like that of a woman, and many of them may be more beautiful than
many women. The prohibition applies more to them for another reason, which
is that in their case there may result from attachment to them types of evil
that do not occur in the case of women. End quote.  

Sharh Muslim (4/31). 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said:

Looking at the face of a beardless youth with desire is like
looking as the face of a mahram or a non-mahram woman with desire, whether
the desire is desire for intercourse or the desire to derive pleasure from
looking. If he looks at his mother, sister or daughter with pleasure derived
from looking like the pleasure derived from looking at a non-mahram woman,
then it is known to everyone that this is haraam. The same applies to
looking at the face of a beardless youth, according to scholarly consensus.
End quote. 

Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (15/413) and
(21/245). 

And he (may Allaah have mercy on him) also said: 

The one who looks repeatedly at a beardless youth and the
like, or persists in that, and says “I am not looking with desire” is lying,
because if he has no need to look, then he is only looking because of the
pleasure that he feels in his heart as a result. As for an accidental
glance, it is forgiven, if he averts his gaze. 

Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (15/419) and
(21/251). 

The kind of looking with which these sick people are
afflicted includes what they watch on satellite channels and what they see
in newspapers and magazines, and on websites, of pictures of children and
beardless young men, and this is what provokes them to commit immoral
actions. 

3 – Falling short with regard to obligatory and naafil acts
of worship 

If the person who is afflicted with this problem prays on
time, fulfilling the conditions and obligatory parts of prayer, that will be
a deterrent that keeps him from falling into evil and immoral ways. Allaah
says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“Verily, As‑Salaah (the prayer) prevents from Al‑Fahsha’
(i.e. great sins of every kind, unlawful sexual intercourse) and Al‑Munkar
(i.e. disbelief, polytheism, and every kind of evil wicked deed)”

[al-‘Ankaboot 29:45] 

So how about if he regularly performs sunnah and naafil
prayers? 

4 – Forsaking the Qur’aan and failing to read books about the
lives of righteous men and the imams 

The Book of Allaah contains guidance, light and healing; it
is the best protection for the Muslim against falling into sin and it is the
best remedy for the one who does fall into sin. 

If he reads books about the imams and biographies of the
scholars, he can take them as an example and become familiar with their
stories and rise above immorality and evil.  

5 – Falling short in seeking knowledge 

Knowledge is light, through which one may know what is halaal
and do it, and what is haraam and avoid it. Through it he may come to know
his Lord, may He be exalted, and His names, attributes and deeds. That will
generate in his heart a sense of shyness before his Lord and shyness before
His angels, so that he will not want to commit evil and immoral actions.
Through knowledge he will come to know the state of sinners and the
punishment that Allaah has prepared for them. 

6 – A lot of spare time in the lives of those who have this
problem 

If they kept themselves busy with acts of worship, sport,
permissible actions and seeking knowledge, they would not have time to spend
in thinking of haraam things, let alone doing them. 

7 – Making friends and keeping company with bad people 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
likened the bad friend to one who works the bellows: he will either burn his
companion’s clothes or he will notice a bad smell coming from him. 

8 – Not getting married 

Allaah has created natural desires in man, and He has made
the outlet for that in women. The permissible way to do that is marriage.
The one who goes against his natural state (fitrah) and diverts that desire
towards other males like him, is even lower than the animals, for the
animals that Allaah has created are in front of us, and do we ever see any
male mounting another male?  

Thirdly: 

The one who wants to deal with his problem and rid himself of
it should look for the reasons why he has fallen into the haraam actions of
looking, mixing and keeping company with beardless youths, and rid himself
of them by giving them up. Trying to treat the problem without addressing
the causes of sickness is a remedy that is doomed to failure and will never
succeed. There follow some treatment methods for the one who wants to rid
himself of this problem and try to free himself from the trap of the
shaytaan, and seek the pleasure of Allaah. These include: 

1 – Strengthening one’s faith by means of acts of worship,
including fasting, filling one’s heart with love of Allaah, and fearing His
punishment. 

2 – Preventing oneself from looking at beardless youths with
or without desire, and not keeping company with them or sitting with them at
all, and not being alone with them, even for teaching Qur’aan. 

Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 

The favoured view is that being alone with a handsome,
non-mahram beardless youth is like being alone with a woman, and it is
haraam to be alone with him just as it is haraam to be alone with a woman,
unless one is with a group of men ofgood character. End quote. 

Sharh al-Nawawi (9/109). 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said: 

As for keeping company with beardless youths, especially with
one of them, as they do, which may lead to being alone with a handsome
beardless youth or letting him stay overnight with a man, and so on, these
are among the worst of evils, according to the Muslims, and according to the
Jews and Christians, and others. End quote. 

Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (11/542). 

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have
mercy on him) said: 

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him)
said: It is not permissible to be alone with a beardless youth even if that
is with the intention of teaching him, because the shaytaan flows through
the son of Adam like blood. How many people have becomes infatuated with
these beardless youths and fell into the trap of the shaytaan and whims and
desires. This is a matter which must be warned against. End quote. 

Al-Sharh al-Mumti’ (1/294,
295). 

3 – Praying regularly and on time, and being keen to do
regular Sunnah and naafil prayers. 

4 – Reciting a portion of Qur’aan regularly, and reciting the
adhkaars for morning and evening, and reading about the lives and
biographies of the imams. 

5 – Seeking knowledge by reading, listening and watching.
This is something that is required of every Muslim. 

6 – Filling one’s time with acts of worship and obedience,
and that which will be of benefit in one's spiritual and worldly affairs. 

7 – Shunning bad company and looking for righteous friends to
stay close to and benefit from their knowledge and good attitude. 

8 – Seeking to get married straight away, to satisfy one’s
desires in a permissible manner. 

9 – Seeking the help of Allaah by calling upon Him and asking
Him to save him from this sickness and calamity. 

10 – Thinking about those who have fallen into this haraam
kind of love and what it has led to, such as insanity, sickness and apostasy
– Allaah forbid. 

Ibn al-Qayyim said: 

The remedy for this awful sickness is to seek the help of the
One Who has control of the hearts and to turn sincerely to Him, keeping busy
with remembrance of Him (dhikr) and trying to fill his heart with love for
Him and closeness to Him, and thinking of the pain that may result from this
love and pleasure, which leads to the loss of that which is most loved and
the infliction of that which is most disliked. But if in spite of all that
he still feels that he prefers to persist in his misguidance, then he should
realize that there is no hope for him. 

Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi (p. 174). 

 

And Allaah knows best

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